8 year wedding anniversary: my thoughts and feelings

Today, Mike and I celebrated our 8th year wedding anniversary. We usually celebrate it with an out of town overnight, but since we can't go out and travel, we just stayed here at home. 

8 years. Wow! Time flies really fast. I've met Mike in a bible school on June 2003. We were seatmates in most of the courses. We were only classmate for a year. But we really became good friends. Good friends became best friends then soon lover. He was lanky, corny and sweet. But, I wasn't even interested at him during those days. 

2007

I graduated in 2008, worked in another province very far from my home place. He also graduated in 2009. We both lived separate lives although we still communicated. We officially entered into a relationship in 2011 when I've decided to move back to my hometown. He courted me for few months. He would go to my workplace once in a while. He would endure the 3 hr travel going there and going back to their place for another 3 hrs. And when he visits, he would bring something for me and for my housemates.

2011

We got married in 2012. After few weeks, he went back to Canada. After a year of separation, I was able to come here in Canada. It was not always a life of roses and chocolates. We had our share of joyful memories and sad memories. Sometimes we fight too. We are still both adjusting. For 8 years of marriage, here are some of my thoughts and feelings about it. 

1. Adjustments is always a part of life. When i moved here in Canada, we both adjusted. When I got pregnant with Emma, we both adjusted. When Emma was born, there's a lot of changes like routines, schedules and responsibilities. Sometimes these changes brought miscommunication and misunderstanding. I've learned to have a heart-to-heart talk to him and try to meet half-way. Sometimes, if it's necessary we both have to compromise.

 2. There are days when you don't feel loved or you don't feel that you love the other person. I think that's okay. Because love is not a feeling. It is a commitment that you choose to love that person inspite and despite of his weaknesses. 

3. Celebrate every occasions together. Thru our 8 years of togetherness, we celebrate our birthdays and anniversaries together. We celebrate Emma's birthdays, our anniversary here in Canada, and holidays together. Celebrate small and big occassions. It binds us stronger and helped us understand each other's preferences and dislikes.

4. Appreciate more. Say it more often. One thing I've learned is to be more appreciative of what /who Mike is. Sometimes, it's very easy to complain and nag. But it's still best to appreciate what he did, celebrate even the small things that he accomplished.

5. Do things together. We find things that we both enjoy. Mike and I love eating, watching movies, playing in an arcade, singing karaoke and even watching Christian concerts. We look forward to doing those things together. But we're not always together, I also give him time to do what he needs to do or do leisure things by himself.

6. Lastly, always and always put God first in everything especially in your relationships. There are times that my husband failed me or even hurt me. It's only thru God that I can find my comfort, peace and love.

So, that's it! Happy 8 years to us! Cheers to more years to us. ❤